SPECIAL NOTE: It is usually best to have the couple counseled together, if possible.
Ask the counselee “How can I help you today?”
Ask the counselee: “Suppose if God, in his infinite wisdom and ability, came to you tonight and restored your relationship with your spouse, what would your life be like?”
Ask the counselee: “What would God want you to do about your relationship?”
Provide some biblical insight into what God would want them to do:
In putting together a plan of action, the pastor should take into consideration the following:
- Help them find a marriage mentor in the church.
- Have them pray daily for their spouse.
- Work on conflict resolution.
- The pastoral counselor should have the couple work on apologizing, forgiveness, and reconciliation.