Ask the counselee “How can I help you today?”


Ask the counselee: “Suppose if God, in his infinite wisdom and ability, came to you tonight and removed your addiction from your life, what would your life be like?”


Ask the counselee: “What would God want you to do about your it?”

Provide some biblical insight into what God would want them to do:

2 Samuel 1:17     Isaiah 53:3-4     John 11:25-26

1 Thessalonians 4:13-14     Revelation 21:4     Proverbs 14:13

Proverbs 15:13     Ephesians 4:30

Grief is a normal feeling when life changes due to a number of circumstances.

A person is not expected to simply “get over it”.  However, God does expect a person to learn to adjust and live in a new reality.


In putting together a plan of action, the pastoral counselor should take into consideration the following:

  1. While there may be stage of grief, a pastoral counselor should not be concerned with walking through each stage with the counselee.  The pastoral counselor should provide this support through follow-up.  The stage of grief should not be seen as a sequence.
  2. A pastoral counselor needs to be aware if a person is trying to avoid appropriate grief or is stuck in one stage non-progressing.
  3. A pastoral counselor should be able to provide comfort and peace for the grieving individual.

Resource:  Clinton, Tim and Ron Hawkins.  The Quick-Reference Guide to Biblical Counseling. (Grand Rapids:  Baker Books, 2009), 130-135.