The Counseling Pastor seeks to provide pastors with the resources and tools needed to effectively and efficiently counsel those needing spiritual guidance and care.

My counseling approach employs a decision management focus.  Decision Management is best understood as assisting the counselee in making a decision and then guiding them in moving the decision forward toward a mutually acceptable goal.  Decision Management Counseling (DCM) uses a four step approach in dealing with counselees.  DCM is not to replace a full-time counselor or therapist, but rather to provide a practical tool for busy pastor to use in everyday situations.

  1. Describe – In this stage, the pastor employs questions and reflective listening to help the counselee describe his/her situation or problem.  The question is “why did you come to see me today?”
  2. Dream – In this stage, the pastor uses a “dream” question as a tool to help the counselee envision his/her situation without the problem or situation.  Many other methods of counseling employ this same technique.  The DCM “dream” question is “Suppose God in his infinite power and ability came tonight while you slept and removed [it] from your life.  What would your life be like?”
  3. Decide – In this stage, the pastor assists the counselee in making a godly decision concerning his/her situation or problem.  The pastor brings biblical wisdom and advise to the counselee urging the counselee to make a decision which will begin to move them from where they are to where God wants them to be.
  4. Do – In this final stage, the pastor develops a plan of action to put the decision in motion.  This stage’s output can be varied according to the person, situation, or problem.  This “do” stage also involves the critical stage of follow-up with the counselee.  In the plan, the pastor indicates when he/she will follow-up with the counselee to make sure they are doing their decision.

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  1. ADDICTION
  2. DIVORCE
  3. GRIEF
  4. MARITAL CONFLICT
  5. MONEY
  6. PARENTING